Infertility is cruel in its subtlety. For all those who are affected, it can feel so sudden – you’re caught off guard, frightened and angry, thinking “why me?” again and again. In this moment it’s quite easy to feel isolated or like you want to be away from everything going on around you, and though this response to infertility is common, one has to wonder if more awareness of infertility in all forms is necessary to stave off these seemingly inexorable negative feelings?
Well the good news is that infertility awareness IS starting to emerge in all the right places!
Fertility and infertility are being discussed in and among celebrity circles, particularly in the United States. Chrissy Teigen, a model, chef and twitter superstar, opened up about her and her husband, musician John Legend’s, social and emotional difficulties when faced with struggling to get pregnant and seeking fertility treatment.
Her feelings are best surmised by her words on an episode of the US panel show ‘FABLife’ shown last year. Both Chrissy and model Tyra Banks highlighted the amount of pressure and emotional anxiety that surrounds people dealing with infertility.
Chrissy captures the feeling perfectly:
Her short speech is met by a large applause from the crowd (which is good) and sends a very hopeful message to all of us at The Bridge Centre and anyone struggling to start a family worldwide (which is VERY good!).
It’s so vital that infertility gets elevated in public interest as it affects so many people. In the UK, 1 in 6 people are now infertile with 20% being involuntarily childless by the age of 45. Banks adds to Teigen’s words with an emotional response of her own:
Since then, Tyra has gone on to have a child via a surrogate and Chrissy is now pregnant via IVF and embryo freezing (congratulations!). Chrissy has also recently tweeted that she’s “always happy and open to speak on infertility. The more casual, the better!” so it’s great to hear that her passion for raising awareness on infertility hasn’t been dulled by her own success.
We’re all fond to subscribe and follow celebrity pregnancy announcements all the way until the baby is born – but whilst the pregnancy fashion, the bumps and the smiles get captured in the public eye and in the papers, the things we don’t see and support are the real bumps – the bumps in the road toward parenthood: the long nights of waiting for tests, the discussion with fertility experts and the worry of it all. This kind of celebrity awareness could be just the right thing.
It really isn’t as simple as the way the media presents it, and for those still waiting, striving or struggling after failed attempts and miscarriages, it can feel like you’re an isolated case – unique perhaps in hopelessness…
From all of us at The Bridge Centre, we want to reassure anyone out there dealing with the aftershock of infertility that you are not alone and there is no need to feel isolated or hopeless. We’re part of a growing community of people in the UK who are unashamed to discuss infertility and are proactively looking for ways towards parenthood.
Many of the couples we meet are either taking the first step down the road of alternative fertility medicine or have been dealing with infertility for some time – some even having had failed cycles of IVF or other fertility treatments.
For many, the hardest part is making that first contact, the point when one acknowledges that the road ahead is not going to be the simplistic ‘sex-and-wait’ journey we’ve all been lead to believe is ‘the normal way’. Instead, things may be turbulent, confusing and emotionally testing, but at the end of it there’s a shot at parenthood and it’s a goal we all deserve to reach for regardless of what the news, the public or anyone says.
In the words of the late Christopher Reeve:
The point is, that it isn’t about other people – try to focus on what works for you regardless of what others keep or asking or thinking. Choose hope, choose what works and what pushes you towards what you want and move confidently in that direction without deviation.
If you’re ready to make that brave first step, then we’re ready to support you for each moment of the journey – so why not get in touch?
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